A Disgusting Man - The Difference Between Real Life And Fantasy

Recently I come across an issue which upset me and made me angry.

The Disgusting Man

This man I have know for a lot of years at one of my workplaces on and off asked me some really sick questions and now I don't talk to him any more. Over the years he always was going around chatting up the women whatever their ages were and talking dirty about shagging and sex but this time he took it way to far. I was shocked by what he asked me and told me and it plagued my mind for a fair few days.

The Pervert

He ask me about if I get an erection(But using much more vulgar words.) while on my medication, not like it had anything to do with him anyway! He told me he pleasures himself(But using much more vulgar words.) about all the women he works with but he called them lasses. What kind of sick guy does that?? He asked me, “Don't you do that?” as if it were a normal thing to be doing! He then went on to ask me, “I bet you have a W**k over,” and he said the name of one women I really really like, one of my most favourite women in the whole universe! I felt like punching him to be honest. I thought about telling her about this but she probably wouldn't believe me as she is friends with the guy and more of a friend to him than she is to me. I have know what he is like from the years I have known him but this time he took it too far! So like my best option here is just to ignore the guy and not mix with his kind of perverse talk. I don't need to be put in that position by anybody and to be fair that women I really, really like isn't my responsibility and nobody else at any workplaces I go to are.

The Difference Between Fantasy And Real Life

I mean I am not one to say anything is wrong with pleasuring oneself as its perfectly healthy and normal but to go around thinking about the people he works with and doing it, god he might have pictures from social media of me and the women and be having a play with himself about all of us all the time for all I know! What if his usual talk about sex and shagging turns into something more and he wants to go after the women, like follows them home or something!

I mean yes I am a single guy and I watch porn, nothing wrong with that at all and of course if I was in relationship or had a girlfriend I would not, obviously. Porn is designed for people to like and enjoy but these women at work are not there to be enjoyed by some sick perverted guy with a sick twisted mentality.

I have written some erotic sex scenes and descriptions in my fantasy writing which is very difficult to do but I don't like pretend they are women from one of my workplaces and imagine them naked n stuff, I just write erotic fantasy and nothing is wrong with that as it is just fantasy. Lots of erotic writing and movies have been created by many famous people such as the Fifty Shades Of Grey books and films. These are fantasy and made up and there Is a massive difference between reality and fantasy. Of course I find women attractive, its natural and perfectly normal, its life and nature but I would never disrespect a women and talk about her like that like that guy did from my workplace, it was totally wrong.

The Result

My only real option is for me to ignore the guy as I do not want anything to do with him but it also has lead me to take a good look at myself and other guys actions and words. I am autistic and I find fitting in with the lads difficult and I try but when they only talk vulgar and disgusting its so very difficult for me to fit it. I have struggled on many occasions with knowing how to react to people and what to say and do which sometimes has lead me to do or say the wrong thing myself, that's autism for you!

So after discussing this issue with my family I have come to the decision to ignore those types of people. When its time to clock off and I try to get away fast, I am putting myself into that position of being there with the lads and having to interact with them which can often put me in difficult positions with how vulgar they talk and so I believe its best for myself just to wait a few minutes more before clocking so I do not put myself into that position, this is best for me.